Around the Kinky Kampfire Podcast
Kinky, Queer, Non-monogamy, some geeky, and all things in-between. Working to make Kink and Non-Monogamy no longer a stigma. New episodes Thursdays!
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Episodes
106 episodes
From Newbie Nerves To Kinky Belonging: How Games, Ambassadors, And Consent Culture Lower The Barrier To Entry | S4 EP108
Ever parked outside a munch, heart racing, and turned the car around? We’ve been there, and we built a roadmap for getting past that moment—from the first hello to feeling like you truly belong. With Shannon Elliott joining in person, we trade ...
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Season 4
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Episode 16
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43:59
Belonging Is A Practice, Not A Door Policy | S4 EP107
Ever walked into a new community and felt the room go quiet? Julius takes a match to clique culture and lights a clearer path to belonging, blending real talk, humor, and a little tequila to explain why groups can feel icy and how to melt the w...
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Season 4
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Episode 15
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25:12
From Burnout To Momentum: Libido As Life Energy | S4 EP106
Ready to trade hesitation for momentum? Julius takes us to the edge of comfort and names the leap: escape velocity, the instant you decide to outgrow fear and become more. We reframe libido through a Jungian lens as life energy—motivation that ...
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Season 4
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Episode 14
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25:17
From Anxiety To Aftercare: Navigating Scene Headspace In Kink And BDSM | S4 EP105
We dig into headspace before, during, and after scenes—how nerves shift into focus, how communication sets the tone, and how aftercare steadies the landing. Along the way we share real talk on public vs private play, music, flow state, consent,...
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Season 4
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Episode 13
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17:42
Boundaries, Red Flags, And Growth with Author, Shannon Elliot | S4 EP104
We sit at the fire with Shannon Elliott to unpack losing yourself in a relationship, finding your values again, and building boundaries that hold. From red flags to safe words to dating parents while child-free, we trade fixes for clarity and n...
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Season 4
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Episode 12
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43:07
From Pegging To Power Dynamics: What Happens When Couples Go Public With Their Kinks | S4 EP103
What happens when couples reveal their kinks for the first time on camera? We pull up to the fire and break down the viral Truth or Drink format—where women confess desires like pegging, food play, and medical roleplay—to show how real-world co...
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Season 4
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Episode 11
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31:51
I’m Here To Cuddle, Not Diagnose | S4 EP102
We explore how to stop therapizing friends and partners, set clean boundaries, and keep consent front and center when the urge to fix takes over. We share scripts, signs of receptivity, and how to find kink-aware, non-monogamy-competent support...
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Season 4
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Episode 11
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30:33
From Small Talk to Real Connection: Communication Skills for Kink, Non-Monogamy, and Everyday Life | S4 EP101
We explore how “vocal image” transforms consent talks, small talk, and relationship check‑ins, especially in kink and non‑monogamy. We share practical tools—melody, pace, volume, pauses, gestures—and reflect on shedding labels like “shy” or “in...
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Season 4
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Episode 10
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27:47
We hit 100 episodes, and the biggest lesson is simpler than you think... | S4 EP100
We celebrate 100 episodes with gratitude, humor, and a clear message: just show up. From podcasting to conventions, improv, and ace-spectrum allyship, we share how tiny steps built a community around honest kink talk.• why the campfire ...
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Season 4
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Episode 9
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30:25
“Are we really STILL saying ethical non‑monogamy?”—Julius has thoughts | S4 EP 99
We dig into how communication, boundaries, and honesty make non‑monogamy work, and why adding “ethical” to the label misses the point. Julius shares practical skills for active listening, handling jealousy, scheduling across partners, and repai...
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Season 4
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Episode 8
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30:15
From Crown to Kilt: Adventures of a Volunteer Supervisor at SmutLovers Con 2025 | S4 EP98
Julius shares his third year volunteering at Smut Lovers Convention 2025 while reflecting on the challenges and joys of being an introvert in social spaces. • Teaching an improv panel for writers to help them develop characters and...
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Season 4
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Episode 7
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31:54
The Adult Child: When Growing Up Gets Stuck | S4 EP97
We dive deep into the fascinating concept of Puer Aeternus or "eternal youth" – a psychological pattern where adults remain stuck in adolescent mindsets well into adulthood. This episode unpacks how this manifests in fear of commitment, inabili...
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Season 4
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Episode 6
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34:14
Anime, Kink, and Finding Your Community: My Weekend at Ecchi Expo Orlando 2025 | S4 EP96
Julius shares his experience performing and teaching at Ecchi Expo Orlando 2025, an adult anime convention combining anime fandom with alternative lifestyle education in a consent-focused environment.• Explaining what "ecchi" is – the m...
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Season 4
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Episode 5
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34:37
Monogamy is a Social Construct, Not Our Biological Destiny | S4 EP95
Evolutionary anthropologist Dr. Anna Machin delivers groundbreaking research revealing monogamy as a social construct rather than our biological destiny, with satisfaction levels being equal between monogamous and polyamorous relationships....
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Season 4
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Episode 4
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36:06
Primal Play isn't just what I do—it's who I am | S4 EP94
Julius Marques dives into the wild world of Primal Play - the raw, instinctual expression of dominance and submission through animalistic behaviors. He shares his personal experiences and insights on this lesser-understood aspect of kink that r...
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Season 4
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Episode 3
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22:37
Relationship Anarchy: Breaking Free from Expectations and Assumptions | Season 4 EP 93
Relationship Anarchy is not just a buzzword but a lifestyle philosophy emphasizing intentional connections where each relationship exists independently, free from predetermined expectations or hierarchies. This episode explores why the relation...
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Season 4
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Episode 2
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20:23
The Return (Again) of the Kinky Kampfire!! | Season 4 EP 92
Julius Marques returns to the podcast after a hiatus, introducing his new vision as a "relationship spotter" rather than a coach or therapist. He shares his journey through imposter syndrome and his plans to teach relationship anarchy with unco...
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Season 4
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Episode 1
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16:25
The Social Probation Period | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 42
Julius explores how different communities operate similarly despite their diverse interests and activities. He dives into his experiences navigating kink, board games, non-monogamy, geek culture, and improv communities, highlighting the univers...
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Season 3
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Episode 14
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38:23
Put Down Your Phone and Wash Your Ass: Dating Advice Nobody Asked For | Advice Line 2 | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 41
Julius explores the fundamental differences in how men and women communicate and the painful lack of education we receive about these differences before entering relationships.• Communication styles differ significantly between genders ...
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Season 3
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Episode 13
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34:53
Bite-Sized Wisdom for a Full-Sized Life: Advice for Taboo Lifestylers | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 40
We explore relationship anarchy's core principle that each relationship exists independently, challenging traditional hierarchies while emphasizing the importance of maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself first.• Relationship ...
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Season 3
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Episode 12
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36:32
You Can't Change Your Past, But Your Future Isn't Written Yet | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 39
Starting life on the back foot doesn't mean you're destined to stay there. This raw, vulnerable episode challenges the notion that our beginnings dictate our endings, offering a candid look at overcoming disadvantage and finding forward momentu...
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Season 3
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Episode 11
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38:24
What Nobody Tells You About Dating When Sex Isn't Your Primary Attraction | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 38
Navigating the dating world as someone on the asexual spectrum comes with unique challenges that many dating platforms simply weren't designed to address. Drawing from decades of personal experience across various dating platforms, I'm pulling ...
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Season 3
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Episode 10
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34:46
EP 49 | Taboo talks with a new friend! | Melanie Carolyn from Mom's Unboxed podcast
Join us for a riveting conversation at the Kinky Kampfire as we explore the kaleidoscopic experiences of kink, alternative lifestyles, and the colorful journey of non-monogamy. In this episode, we chat with Melanie Carolyn, the dynamic host of ...
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Season 3
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Episode 9
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50:09
Rejection: The Universal Struggle | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 37
Have you ever felt the sting of rejection? In this compelling episode of The Pillowfort Sessions, we dive into the complexities of rejection—the emotional turmoil it brings and why it affects us all. Our host shares relatable experiences and st...
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Season 3
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Episode 8
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31:16
Navigating Tough Talks: Reimagining Communication, Gender Roles, and Vulnerability | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 36
Ever found yourself tongue-tied when it comes to navigating the trickiest conversations in your relationship? We're tackling those moments head-on, from chatting about money woes to discussing whether or not kids are part of your future. Even w...
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Season 3
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Episode 7
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30:03